feeling a little sad about having to unfollow somebody who as of the past few months has posted almost nothing but self harm declarations, drug use, self loathing statements and claims that nobody cares about them and everybody should go away. I understand its difficult for people and sometimes they end up pushing others away, even those who have offered to help and support, but there’s a line drawn when it begins to effect my own self care when I worry so much and yet nothing ever shows any progress.
I just hope that this doesn’t make me a bad person. I do not want to seem like I am ignoring the cries of somebody needing help, but they do not seem to listen when people offer support either and I do not know what more I can gain from following them apart from a sense of failure to help.
And normally that’s a bad thing, but I think this idea could be solid. I was thinking back on when I started transitioning and how confused and lost I was. So, the idea is a help/advice blog for trans women. I’m sure there are probably a million of them around already, but hey. Can there ever really be too many? Anyhow, the thing about this blog is that it would hinge on having a decent number of active followers who have experience with transition related topics in different regions of the world.
Like, alright. I’ve tried to help people out as much as possible, but my view of the system is sort of narrow. I only know how it’s done in America. And North Carolina, at that. But the rules are different in different places. So when people in other regions ask me about getting prescribed hormones, name changes, etc, I can’t really help them. So the aim here would be to let people send in questions and then allow the other followers from that area of the world, who actually have experience doing these things, to either respond to that ask or send the person that sent it in a private message to help them out or talk them through the things they’ll need to do.
So, I guess what I’m getting at here is this: I need trans women (though trans men are totally invited to take part and ask questions as well) from all over the world who have experience with transition related topics who would be ready/willing/able to answer questions posed by people who need guidance in starting and/or continuing their transition.
You don’t have to be some sort of doctor or whatever. Just have some knowledge of the process in your region and open to sharing that knowledge and helping people out. If this ends up working out, I’ll set up the blog so that (mostly) everything is tagged in some way and people can browse/search for the info that they need.
So, who’s in?
Okay Jenny, count me in for UK advice. Also signal boost to anybody else I know who would love to help (I am looking at a few of you in particular… you know who you are)
Hermit crab eating marrow out of a bone. Just a good shot of their little mouth parts and how they eat, if you haven’t had the opportunity to see it first hand. :)
I remember when me and my girlfriend first saw our crabbies eating. I totally lost my shit with how adorable it looked, like a tiny pair of grasping mandibles gently picking up the food off their claws…
We ended up referring to it as “nimming” hence why sometimes we say “nim nim!” when talking about our crabs. We are a pair of gay crab moms <3
My intuition told me that this story about a futuristic world carried an immediate message for our present world. I am also interested in computers through my own personal experience with them. There are only a few movies, even out of Hollywood, which clearly portray the influence and power of computers. I thought this theme would be more effectively conveyed through animation. - director Mamoru Oshii; P.D. by Hiromasa Ogura
Sitting is killing us. Or wait, maybe it’s standing. Yes, standing can be unhealthy, too. That’s according to the designers of the “chairless chair,” a half-stand, half-sit piece of furniture that will make life less terrible for workers who carry out long shifts on their feet. By taking weight off the joints and lower back, Swiss industrial design house Nooneecontends that the chairless chair will decrease fatigue and increase productivity.
A story about a Trans woman who wakes into the real world, discovering her physicality to be in tune all along and that dysphoria was just an avatar assignment glitch by the central CPUs.
She works her way through the ranks in Zion, eventually captaining her own…
That was the core idea for Switch. She was supposed to be a male avatar in the Matrix and biologically female in the real world. It’s still implied, with a more androgynous look in the Matrix scenes and less so on the ship.
you know, when I saw the first movie I immediately warmed to switch. I thought she was really cool and wanted to be like her in a way, tall and cool headed. The clue is in the name also. I was genuinely more upset about what cypher did to her then any other character really… yes even dozer.
Her last line still haunts me.
"Not like this"
So yeah, it really does feel like a bit of Lana shining through way back then… and a bit of me too for caring about switch more than I could understand.
Hey there, please forgive the anon but I was hoping you'd be able to provide some advice. I'm a trans* individual living in the UK, and back in January I was referred by my GP to the Charing Cross/West London Gender Identity Clinic. Between then and today, I had heard nothing about a potential appointment, even if only for consultation. Only today have I been informed that they're still dealing with referrals from August 2013! Do you have any advice on how I can get help sooner than next year?
ah yes.. charring cross…
My advice is potentially ring around other gender clinics and see if you can persuade them to give you an approximation of their waiting lists. After that, you can ask for a referral from your GP to another clinic if you wish (cancelling your chx one in the process). You WILL go tot he back of the queue again, but that still may be faster then the UKs most oversubscribed and slowest administrating gender clinic. Seriously, this is one of the reasons I tend to advise people that they CAN ask for a referral to a clinic of their choosing, as most docs default to chx and it becomes drowned in red tape.
that said you’d think I’d be more careful about going barefoot since I have a scar on the bottom of one from putting my foot through a glass table as a child hahaha no the experience only taught me that my feet are invincible and shoes are for mere mortals
that and the fact that your feet are so thick with calluses that they are impenetrable by most earth metals.
I swear they are your dragon scales growing through ;)